Published November 12, 2010 by
When a person you love is ill, it’s hard to know what to say. That shouldn’t stop you from writing a card or a note to say how much the person means to you. Delaying the sending of a get well card is never a good idea. You want your card to be timely and thoughtful. But if sending it late is the only way to send it, still do go ahead and send it. photo credit: get well soon via photopin (license)
Here are some ideas of what you can write inside a get well note or card.
I was so sorry to hear that you had broken your arm while skiing in Colorado. I know how much you had looked forward to the trip. If there’s anything I can do, please let me know. I will be thinking of you and hope you can use this time to get some much overdue rest. Don’t worry, you’ll be back to golfing in no time!
While this note may be specific to one situation, it gives you a guideline to start with for any get well letter. Start by saying you’re sorry the person is ill. Mention the illness unless it’s a long term illness. Saying, “sorry you have cancer” comes across as thoughtless, but you could say something like, “I am sure you are in excellent hands with your doctors.” Next, make an offer of your time or to be there if the person needs you. They may never have to take you up on it, but at least you offered. Be short and sweet. Don’t go into long rants about things that are bothering you, problems at the office where you both work, or any other downers. Just a few words about how you’ll be thinking or praying for a person can brighten their day. And try to be lighthearted if you can. A card that’s morose is not going to pick anyone’s spirits up. Sign it with your full name in case someone else opens the mail or the envelope gets lost. They may be wondering “which Don?” if you don’t spell it out.
Mom told me that your rheumatism is acting up again when I called her last week. I am so sorry to hear that. I know you are such a trooper about your condition, but don’t overdo it. We are all praying for you and are looking forward to being able to visit you at Thanksgiving. Take care and know that you are loved and cherished by us all.
For a family member who you don’t see every day, you’ll want to write about how you found out they were ill (again, perhaps) and make a sincere comment about their personality. Are they always up and about and now saddened to be slowed down by illness? It’s ok to mention it. Tell the person you’re praying for them or that they are in your thoughts. If you are truly going to be able to get out to visit, say so, but never make an empty promise that you can’t keep. If there are children in the family, let them sign their names to the card too. A child’s chicken scratch can be a delightfully cheerful addition to a get well card.
If you'd like to send a little something extra to brighten their day, fruit gift baskets are a great idea. Not only do they send a thoughtful sentiment, the nutrients in fruit can help speed their healing!